Whale Being Therapy, Ellie Wilde, Ph.D.

How I Work
This isn’t traditional therapy.
My passion lives at the intersection of relationships and embodied liberation—both individual and collective. I specialize in supporting individuals and partnerships in moving beyond intellect, performance, and perfectionism to reconnect with their full, authentic selves.
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Raised by scientists, doctors, and engineers, I once believed emotional and relational challenges could be solved with the mind alone. That approach fell short. After a long search for something that worked, I found it, and now live with more freedom and joy than I ever thought possible. I am honored to share what I found with you.
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My approach is relational, dynamic, embodied, and deeply experiential. We can move beyond insight and towards transformation—using cutting-edge, integrative modalities tailored to your unique needs.
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I weave together:
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Parts Work Therapy (Internal Family Systems - IFS)
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Polyvagal-informed somatics
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Relational and attachment-based approaches (Gottman & EFT)
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Drama therapy, movement, and expressive arts
In our sessions I will help you give voice to the parts of you that may have been hidden, cut off, or unsupported. Through this work, many clients rediscover long-buried joy, aliveness, clarity, energy, and a deep sense of wholeness.
This work is for you if you’re ready to:
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Move beyond intellectual insight into embodied self-expression
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Heal and integrate the more complex, unseen parts of yourself
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Break out of perfectionism, performance, or emotional “stuckness”
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Deepen connection in your relationships and with your own truth
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I bring particular care and cultural attunement to working with:
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Neurodiverse clients (ADHD, Autism, both, and more)
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LGBTQIA+ and gender-expansive individuals
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BIPOC clients
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Those with immigrant or cross-cultural backgrounds
My style is warm, active, intuitive, and collaborative. I walk beside you as we explore what’s possible when you reclaim the full range of who you are— and find allies and community along the way.
If you’re ready to make meaningful, lasting change in your life, I’d be honored to support your journey.
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Sessions take place virtually for clients located in Washington State.
Why I Do This Work
"Survival of the nutured."
I believe healing happens in relationship—with ourselves, each other, and the Earth. Relationships are where we’re most deeply hurt and the site of most powerfully healing. Therapy, for me, is a space to gently untangle the stories and strategies we’ve developed to survive, and make room for new ones that help us thrive.
I see mental health struggles not as personal failures, but as natural responses to an overwhelming, disconnected world. We live in systems that ask too much, offer too little, and shame us for needing care. But we were never meant to carry it all alone. As researcher Louis Cozalino says, "It's not the survival of the fittest, it's the survival of the nurtured."
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Nature reminds us how to slow down, soften, and return to what is true in our essential selves. Like the Earth from which we came, our bodies hold wisdom. In this work, we listen—together—to what’s ready to be released, reclaimed, and rooted.
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Nature also shows us that transformation is necessary and constant, generative, and interconnected. Progress is playful and experimental.
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Therapy is a place to reconnect with your inner nature and remember your belonging to life. From this place, transformation ripples outward—toward more just, alive, and interconnected ways of being.
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When we tune into our inner wisdom and increase self trust, we gain the power to bring a more grounded, loving presence to ourselves, and to others, helping them do the same, making the world a better place one ripple at a time.
