Whale Being Therapy, Ellie Wilde, Ph.D.
come back to life! find belonging, wonder, purpose & joy in the dark
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Tired of the constant pressure, striving, grief, dread, pretending to be okay? These are difficult, painful times. Like many, you may have learned to survive by disconnecting—numbing out, pushing through, and losing touch with what makes life worth living.
But you deserve more than survival.
With deep training in nervous system support and trauma, and a playful, creative approach grounded in lived experience, I offer you what's worked best for myself and my clients: helping you welcome all parts of you back to relationship -- and back to life!
Together, we build a connection you can trust: your voice matters and your choices are honored. Each session is rooted in presence and consent, so you can move beyond isolated survival and into deep belonging, the full dance of aliveness.
As we tend to the grief, anxiety, shame, anger, and despair these times bring, your nervous system grows capacity for presence and connection. Your relationships deepen, allowing creativity, agency, wonder, joy, and flow to naturally emerge.
If you're like most of my clients, you may find renewed confidence as life regains color, meaning, purpose, and vitality. You may discover a sense of abundant potential they call "limitless!"
Sessions are relational, somatic, creative, transformative, and often playful. I have particular affinity for neurodivergents, queer and gender-expansive people, immigrants, creatives, leaders, healers, and folks working for collective liberation.
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relationships & COUPLEs
Relationships have always been my passion, from writing the Gottman Institute's blog at the beginning of my training, and shaping every step of my career since.
For decades, I have immersed myself in both the art and science of helping relationships thrive -- from publishing relationship research during my PhD to pursuing extensive advanced training beyond the classroom.
Today, I integrate elements of Gottman Method, Sue Johnson's Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT), somatic approaches, and Psychodrama to create a deeply transformative experience for each partnership.
I am rarely my clients' first couples therapist. But many tell me that my creative, direct approach is the first to help them make a meaningful difference: break old patterns, rediscover intimacy, and deepen into love.
I am also an experienced guide through the discernment process, helping partners explore whether the relationship is still mutually supportive, decide whether to deepen commitment, or navigate the transition of separation with care and clarity.
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rediscovering aliveness & creativity? cool, BUT HOW?
Great question. We don't just talk about problems—we work with them in real time. I draw on nature-based somatics, InterPlay, Psychodrama, IFS-adjacent parts work, expressive arts, and more, tailoring each session to your unique needs.
Together we release stress, build internal and external resources, integrate mind and body, and reconnect with your innate vitality and energy. We welcome each part of your experience—from grief and shame to curiosity, joy, and wonder. Held well, you become increasingly adept at meeting life's challenges and confidently supporting others.
You discover new ways of moving, feeling, relating, and responding. As your inner world becomes more integrated, self-trust and alignment grow, the inner critic quiets, and new possibilities emerge. Each session includes practical somatic tools you can use anytime, anywhere. Regular check-ins ensure our work continues to support you and what matters to you most.
Even in such dark times, imagination, playfulness, and aliveness are always available to those who know how to look.
